Before You Apply…
Thank you for your interest in joining this community. Before we move forward, I want to share the values I promote.
Values
Silence
In dating and in life, silence often speaks louder than words. It gives us space to contemplate, reflect, to feel, and to choose. Whether it's the silence shared with a partner while you are seeing each other, or the silence that follows someone walking away, learning to sit with it, without chasing or doubting your worth, contemplating silence is a powerful form of self-love.
Patience
In a world of convenient dating and superficial love, patience is radical. It allows us to slow down, make better choices, and avoid forcing what isn’t meant for us. True love takes time, same as real friendships, right!.
Healthy Love
Healthy couples, came from healthy individuals. You don’t need to be perfect to be ready for love. But you do need self-awareness. When you’re grounded in self-love, you attract love that feels safe, respectful, and real. That said, I’ve seen many couples who aren’t particularly healthy, yet they still choose to share their lives together. This doesn't mean that harmony in a relationship is impossible, it just means that harmony requires intention, not perfection.
Real Love
Self-love is the foundation of real love. If you love yourself enough, you can absolutely navigate the dating world with confidence. It helps you face the challenges of putting yourself out there without getting hurt as easily. Self-love is like going into the dating scene with a shield it protects you while allowing you to stay open to real connection. You may get hurt in dating or love, no doubt about it! But when you have self-love and a healthy relationship with yourself, it helps you overcome the stumbles along the way: disappointments, rejections, those ugly situations you may encounter.
Love in a relationship . As the traditional vows say: "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish." When you truly love someone, you bring your best to the table. You do everything you can to make that person happy, and it goes both ways, for both men and women.
Honesty
We live in a world full of misunderstandings and unfortunately lies. That’s why being honest is so valuable, truly valuable! Whether you’re looking for a soulmate, a deep connection, or something casual, just have fun or maybe just being friends, that’s totally fine! But, be honest with yourself, and with others. There’s no judgment here, only encouragement to be clear about your intentions.
Marriage/Long-term relationship
I personally believe in marriage as the lasting stage of a relationship. That doesn’t mean you have to; maybe you’re simply looking for a stable, long-term relationship. That’s totally fine. However, I’ve met many couples who have been together for years without an official wedding ceremony, yet they live by all the values of a committed, loving marriage. On the other hand, I’ve also seen couples who are legally married but aren’t truly living in matrimony, their relationship is disconnected or broken.
In that sense, marriage is ultimately an institution shaped by the individuals in it, whether or not there’s a formal ceremony.
Family
A family begins with two people. A couple without children is still a family, no doubt about it. Families are families, regardless of religion, culture, or background. There are Christian families, Jewish families, Catholic families, and non-believing families. But at the core, they all share the same fundamental values: love, support, and connection.
Parenting
This is a sensitive topic for me. I believe having a child is both a huge and beautiful responsibility; and it should be treated that way. It’s not just about raising your child. I have deep empathy for children and the way some parents raise them without enough love and care. Neglected children often grow into adults carrying trauma and fear, making it harder for them to build a better world. How we parent today affects the world tomorrow.
Purpose
The heart of this project is to help close the gap between men and women in the world of romance.
A space to help you find love, self-love, and/or love in a stable relationship or marriage. Whatever feels most aligned with your values and your heart. You’re not here to be pushed into a mold. You’re here to reconnect with what love truly means to you.
Needs
Every woman has her own unique needs in a relationship; love, attraction, chemistry, preferences, affection, emotional support, communication, sex, trust, intimacy, spiritual connection, and more. Your needs are not too much. They are not wrong. They are real, they are valid, and they deserve respect. This community is a place where we honor those needs.
Diversity
This community welcomes all women, regardless of your country, religion, spiritual beliefs, or even if you don’t believe at all. What unites us here isn’t a single purpose, it’s the shared hope for love, connection, and growth. You are welcome. You belong.
I also believe in diversity when it comes to the concept of high-value men and high-value women. Here is a reality; The high-value man you're looking for may not be the kind of man another woman desires, and that's totally fine. We all have different preferences, and yours don’t need to be measured or validated by comparison. They are yours, and they are valid.
Freedom
I don’t like to change people’s minds. Honestly, I think trying to change someone’s beliefs is a waste of time. I’m not here to do that. I’m here to help you find the kind of love that fits your world, your values, your heart, your truth. Even the way that you think. And yes, there’s someone out there who fits into your world, just as you’ll fit into his. That’s real connection, not forced change.
Sincerely,
Alexander
Community Guidelines.
These guidelines are here to protect the heart of what we’re building: a safe, warm, and empowering space for women to grow in love and connection.
What to Do
Use your real name (Creating your internal profile) We want this space to be rooted in authenticity. You’re required to use your real name when creating your profile. optional; You can choose what else you share, optinal.
Show up at your own pace There’s no need or pressure to post or comment. You're welcome to quietly take in the conversations, attend events, and engage however feels right for you.
Speak with intention When you do post, share from the heart. Whether it's a question, a reflection, or a funny dating moment, let it come from your lived experience. That’s what makes this space feel real and alive.
Honor each other’s vulnerability Every lady here is opening up in her own way. If you see a post you disagree with, pause and reflect before responding. If your comment doesn’t add anything kind or constructive, it might be best to skip it.
Disagree gracefully If something truly bothers you, you’re always welcome to send me a direct message instead of commenting publicly. Or you can comment by sharing the context of where you're coming from. Stay positive!
Share your own journey Your voice matters. Whether you’ve had amazing dating moments, tough lessons, or a love story still in progress, we want to read it. This is a space for connection, not perfection.
Keep topics relevant Our focus is on love, self-love, relationships, healing, and emotional growth. If you want to start a new conversation, create a new post so others can follow clearly.
Keep your content real AI tools like Chatgpt can be helpful, but here, we ask that posts and comments come from you. Speak from your truth, not from a AI tool. That’s what makes this space meaningful.
Use humor with heart Funny posts are welcome! But let’s make sure the tone stays supportive and doesn't overshadow the deeper conversations. Balance is key.
What Not to Do
Fake names or nicknames. (When you created your profile.)
Sales, marketing, advertising, promotions, or self-promotion. (not a market place)
Memes or posts with offensive or derogatory content.
External links, videos, or outside content of dating experts or therapists.
Religious, political, or spiritual content.
No content unrelated to dating, love, relationships, or emotional growth.
Talking about someone else's life, rather than your own.
Don’t use AI tools like chatgpt to create content for the community. Use your own words.
What to do if I need help?
If you're feeling overwhelmed, I deeply encourage you to connect with a licensed mental health professional. I've curated a short list of therapy platforms and trusted directories that can help you find the support you need, wherever you are in the world. Asking for professional help is not weakness. It’s an act of love. For yourself. Don't hesitate to reach out for help.
If Someone Breaks the Rules
That doesn’t necessarily mean I’ll remove you. I want you to stay and grow here. You’re free to leave only when it truly feels like your time to go. If someone steps outside the guidelines, I’ll reach out gently and directly. If the behavior continues, their ability to post or comment may be limited to preserve the integrity of the group.
Disclaimer
This community is not a replacement for therapy, professional counseling, personal or individual advice. If you're currently in therapy, please continue. And if you feel the need for personal support, I strongly encourage you to connect with a licensed professional. Getting help is a form of self-love.
The guidance and reflections shared in this community are based on general insights, not personalized advice.
Every woman’s path is unique, and what works for one person may not be right for another.
Please take what resonates and leave what doesn’t. Use your own wisdom, discernment and context to decide what aligns with your life, your values, and your heart.
No one else is walking in your shoes. You alone are responsible for your actions and choices. So take a breath. Take a break if you need to. And give yourself time to reflect before making assumptions or decisions.
Alexander
Application process
How to Apply
Joining the Meeting Alexander community is simple, secure, and designed to protect your privacy and emotional safety.
We take your trust seriously, which is why we personally review every application. This helps us keep the space genuine, supportive, and women-only. Since this is a manual process, my team and I may take one to three days to complete the review.
Step One: Introduce Yourself
Share your basic information, including your name, location, and social media handles (if you have them). This helps us confirm that you're a real person, and of course, a woman. Don’t worry if you don’t use social media, we’ll guide you through a quick video verification instead.
Step Two: Submit Payment
After you’ve completed the form, you’ll be redirect to another page where you’ll be asked to submit your payment. Please use the same email address for everything, it becomes your primary identity in the system.
We don’t proceed for the video call verification until both Step One and Step Two are completed.
The Video Call
As part of the verification process, we’ll schedule a quick 1-minute video call using an online platform. Please don’t use any filters or virtual backgrounds during the video call, as they are not allowed. Use a moderate light to recognize you. This is a simple, human way to ensure the space remains safe, and real.
If we aren’t able to connect after a few tries, we’ll fully refund your payment and pause your application until a call is possible. No additional charges will occur.
Temporary Access & Welcome
While we verify your application, you’ll be granted limited access to a temporary space inside the community. During this stage, I’ll introduce myself and ask questions, just to understand where you are on your love journey.
Once you're fully verified, you’ll receive a warm welcome and full access to all community features and events.
Platform Details
We use Circle.so as system-platform. You can access it through your browser, and if you prefer, you can also download the free Circle app for a smoother mobile experience.